Choose Joy!

Yesterday was a rough day…

I woke up thrilled to see that products for me to review had been delivered to our mailbox. I anxiously walked to our mailbox to find it empty. I started panicking as I remembered the lock on our mailbox had been broken for a while now. Why hadn’t I called to get that fixed? Just one of those items on my checklist every day that kept getting pushed to the bottom in the chaos of our life. I worried that my packages had been stolen. After trying to call the postal office several times and getting the run around, I decided to drive down there and talk to somebody in person.

I arrived and proceeded to stand in the line that weaved out the door while I waited for a clerk to help me. When it was finally my turn, I told the nice man my problem and that I needed to get the lock fixed. The clerk went to check the shelf and assured me that they did not have my missing mail at their location. I began filling out the necessary forms when a woman approached me. She introduced herself to me as the manager and basically began to interrogate me about my mailbox. I told her that it had been broken for a while and when I called the 800 number, I couldn’t get a person on the line. She went on to tell me that I was lying; that there was no way my mailbox was broken for more than a few days because her mailman would never deliver to an unlocked mailbox. I politely told her that maybe he hadn’t noticed but it had been broken for quite some time.

Now, I don’t do well with conflict. I’m one of those people who flee at all costs from confrontation. So as she kept accusing me of lying about my situation, I just began to shake and retreat completely. She walked away and miraculously came back with my missing mail that her mailman didn’t deliver. YAY! I was so thrilled to see the packages, but I couldn’t shake the feeling I was left with. This woman made me feel incredibly small and insignificant, even in that short time, it affected me. I told her I was sorry if I had frustrated her and I hoped she had a better day. I finally left and when I got into the car (I’m embarrassed to say) I cried!

As I drove home, I put on some Chris Tomlin to calm myself down, and then I realized something huge. I allowed her to let me feel this way. I let her steal my joy. It was a beautiful day, my daughter and I snuggled all morning, my coffee was perfect and Grey’s Anatomy was coming on that night! There was no way I was going to let her affect my whole day.

Today, I want you all to choose joy! No matter what life throws your way, choose to see the good and the happiness in your weekend. And do something kind for someone in your life! You never know the impact it could have. This country is at odds with one another enough as it is; can’t we be kind to one another?

Have a wonderful Halloween filled weekend!


Please note this is not a view of the whole United States Postal Service. I understand there are very kind and compassionate people in this field, this was just my experience on that day. 




  1. Sarah M says:

    Such a great post! I choose joy and glad you realized that she can’t rain on your good day! Xoxo

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      Awh thank you Sarah! You are so right! Thank you for reading 🙂

  2. Julie D says:

    My heart goes out to you — I’m a sensitive soul too and would have felt the very same. And then held on to that feeling for days. I’m glad you turned things around, and quickly! Next time I’m going to try to choose joy too. xo

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      It’s hard isn’t it Julie? I just try to remember that there are good and positive people in this world too! Thank you for reading!

  3. Angel says:

    Aww! Sweet mama! Proud of you for standing up! It’s hard for us women with soft hearts to do this but it can be so rewarding when we do

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      I completely agree. I’m trying to stick up for myself more and more everyday!

  4. Yes girl, you are so right. We can’t always choose the situations we are put in, but we can control our perspective and attitude towards it. Thanks for sharing this!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      Amen to that Ashley! Thank you for reading!

  5. Aww don’t be embarrassed to cry! Sometimes we all need a good cry to feel better. I think we can all learn a thing or two from your post and I will live today choosing joy!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      You are so right Nicole! Sometimes a cry is all we can do! Thank you for reading. Joy and Grace wins every time!

  6. Anna says:

    Yes! Choose Joy! My sister once told me that blessed is a mindset. We choose to feel the way we do. Don’t let anyone ruin your day or your moments.

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      Your sister is a wise woman! That is so true. Only we have that power, thank you for that reminder!

  7. Aw! I’m sorry that the woman made you feel so badly, but I’m so glad you were able to turn it around and chose Joy! Such a great message, and reminder to us all! Thanks for sharing!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      Awh thank you for reading and for your kind words! Happy Halloween! Can’t wait to see what the girls dress up as!

  8. Patricia says:

    I’m sorry you had this unpleasant interaction but you’re so right! I immediately thought of Philippians 4:8 …”if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”

    Blessings to you friend!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      I love that verse! Thank you so much for sharing it with me!

  9. ashley says:

    We all have been there girl! Glad you didn’t let her ruin your day

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      You are so right Ashley! Every day is a new day. 🙂

  10. Eryka says:

    Yes always choose joy! So much to ruin your day out there

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      I could not agree more with you!

  11. Lindsay says:

    such an important reminder! I too HATE conflict, it makes me so uncomfortable. Clearly that lady wasn’t having a great day herself, but I love your positive take away!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      I agree! Conflict is so hard for me, I just clam right up. Thank you for reading!

  12. Heydy says:

    Oh wow ! Good for you for not losing it ! I would have came close and probably even started a scene. But you are right, we have to choose joy!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      Thank you! Happy Halloween to you and your boys!

  13. Annie says:

    I am the same way! A small conflict like that can totally throw me off for the rest of the day. Your message was a great reminder to just let it go and choose joy! Thank you!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      I’m so glad. Thank you so much!

  14. Jessica says:

    I’m so sorry for your experience! Having a positive outlook is everything!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      I couldn’t agree more. Thank you, and Happy Halloween!

  15. Beth Newcomb says:

    Such a great reminder! It is all too easy to let one negative interaction shape the whole day! Happy Halloween!

    1. raisingmyarrows says:

      You are so right! Thank you and Happy Halloween to your family too!

  16. There is always the option to choose joy! LOVE

  17. Leslie says:

    Love this! Choosing joy isn’t always easy, but my gosh is life happier and less stressful when you do!

  18. Rachel says:

    I’m so glad you didn’t let it ruin your day! I really struggle with that, too!!

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